The reality is that there are plenty of vocal porn stars out there (including BBW porn stars) who seem to love their work — and whose work is tied to visibility and representation of fat, empowered, sexually liberated bodies.
You'll be told that it's all disgusting and corrupt and weird and awful.
An anonymous writer for xo Jane put it best: "Most public conversations about feedism frame it as though the feedee is some kind of helpless victim who is being bullied into eating. It rings pretty misogynistic to me to assume that a woman (feedees are typically, though not always, women) who might be into eating a lot of food and getting fat must be being 'tricked' into it." You can't really blame her for writing anonymously.
I spend a lot of my time thinking about and discussing body positivism and fat acceptance.
Since delving into this movement as a college senior trying to find my place in this insane, body shame-inspiring world, I've had the opportunity to talk to a lot of people about their feelings surrounding this term.
It never ceases to amaze me how we welcome whipping and lashing with open arms when it's coming in the form of traditionally pretty characters, but bring out the torches as soon as someone talks fat sex.