Dating a divorced man with children
You don’t need official statistics to tell you divorce is a pretty strong trend. If you’re lucky, he has learned from the past and won’t make those same errors again with you. Sometimes people make the same mistakes in their relationships, over and over and over again. If you’re dating a divorced guy who has a tendency to repeat errors continuously in other areas of his life, then you’d better beware. A serious problem may come up if your guy has been hurt by his failed marriage. ) ended the relationship, then you might have an up-hill-battle on your hands.
But in today’s world, where divorce is the norm, you might want to reconsider. A divorced man is likely to already have made mistakes in the past that an unmarried guy may not yet have experienced. Make sure you’ve got someone who admits to past mistakes and wants to do better in the future.
You’ll need a lot of patience and will-power to overcome the drawbacks of dating a divorcee.
But if you’ve found yourself someone great, this really shouldn’t be so difficult.
I was in your situation, until I broke it off with him yesterday. Your story provides confirmation that I did absolutely the correct thing. They will get over the initial shock of how untraditional your relationship is, and more importantly, that even though this isn't what they envisioned for you, it might be ok -because of the positive changes your relationship causes within you. He also may be somewhat over-protective of his kids and maybe worried about them, in the event that your relationship has issues. He and their mother have been divorced for 3 1/2 years.
When he was courting me he promised me everything under the sun, including that I would never be second to his children. It's not all sunshine & roses though -you will have to deal with the kids and ex-wife emotions by yourself, you don't want the parental 'we told you so' -alone, because he will try, but never truly comprehend everything his baggage will put you through, emotionally and otherwise. He probably doesn't want them to be in the middle of any issues or especially a possible break-up. im dealing with the same thang its hard for my parents to understand the chose i made to date a man that is divorce with im going threw a divorce myself with kids like this man im what im doing is showing that im happy now cause of this showing them just me doing the right things in life that i wasnt doing before he came into my life. I am the only woman the kids have met, so he is very protective of them. He also travels alot for work,so in his limited free time he is torn between his kids OR me instead of me AND the kids?
Correct me if I'm wrong, but he has been doing this for eight months. Apparently I've never seemed this happy before -no one can discourage anything that breathes new life into you like that. I can sense his hesitations in marriage and that sort of thing. We were friends for 4 years before we started dating 10 months ago.